Satisfied

The women I know who are most dis­sat­is­fied with their lives are most enam­ored with their com­fort zones. 

Don’t ask me to do any­thing hard, but … I sure wish life were a bit more interesting.

I’ve lost my pas­sion. I  don’t really care about anything.

I don’t know what God wants me to do!  I would do some­thing if I just knew WHAT to do!

If you give your­self to the hun­gry and sat­isfy the desire of the afflicted, then your light will rise in dark­ness and your gloom will become like mid­day.  And the Lord will contin­u­ally guide you and sat­isfy your desire in scorched places.  Is. 58:10–11

Peter, do you love Me? Yes, Lord.  Tend My lambs.

Peter, do you love Me? Yes, Lord.  Shep­herd My sheep.

Peter, do you love Me? Yes!  Tend My sheep.

 

Rocket sci­ence, it is not. The great com­mand: love.   The great com­mis­sion: go, make dis­ci­ples, bap­tize them, teach them to obey God  And Jesus will be with us–even to the end of the age.  With us.  With me.  With you.  What more do we need? We’d do well to pray less about being deliv­ered from trou­bles and ene­mies and more about being deliv­ered from our own desire for comfort.

Lord God, why is it so hard to sim­ply –love?  Deliver me from being enam­ored with ease.  Sat­isfy my desire in scorched places.  Empower me to tend, shep­herd, and love. For You, Jesus, amen.

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Sharing Stories

The par­tic­i­pants in the cur­rent Woman on a Mis­sion class recently shared their fam­ily sto­ries, which is the self-discovery home­work for Les­son 1.  Most came with much fear and trem­bling, not know­ing how much to share, how deep to go, what secrets to reveal, and just how much they should trust com­plete strangers.

Here is a sam­pling of what the small group facil­i­ta­tors had to say about the evening’s shar­ing.  It will give you a taste of what we all experienced.

S: My group was unbe­liev­able. They were even more trans­par­ent than either of my pre­vi­ous groups. They revealed wounds and pains that they had never shared with any­one –not even with their hus­bands. One of the women in my group who had typed out her story wanted her hus­band to know about some of her wounds so she just handed him a copy to read before she left for class.  She would not be able to say the words out loud to him.  Yet, to her small group, she some­how man­aged to do just that.

G: I’m email­ing my group indi­vid­u­ally to thank them for their hon­esty and trust (as they shared their sto­ries). I love WOM and the women it brings into our lives.

M:  Last night was incred­i­ble! I felt hon­ored to be a part of it and see God’s work­ing miracle.

LA:  It was awe­some!  The ladies were so trans­par­ent about their strug­gles, and even at such young ages, they have already dealt with so much.  It was truly an honor to be on the lis­ten­ing end of their shar­ing!   We are all feel­ing a close­ness already…great study, Linda!

D: Our group was amaz­ing…  The depth of pain, abuse, tragedy… the courage to tell the sto­ries… oh my good­ness.  It was so spe­cial, I really felt hon­ored to be with the women. One lady started sob­bing and couldn’t get through her story, I asked if she was ok and told her that she didn’t have to con­tinue.  .  .  After our group prayed for her, she said she wanted to try one more time and then she fin­ished her story!  What a tes­ti­mony to the other women–and to me!


B:  Last night was a won­der­fully bit­ter­sweet time of shar­ing.  They are all so different–in their lives and in their sea­son of life… Their sto­ries are dif­fer­ent, and yet, there were threads woven through each story that wove us all together. For me per­son­ally, it was so excit­ing and mean­ing­ful.  There was a much deeper level of shar­ing than I anticipated.

L:  The sto­ries in my group served to remind me once again that we ALL have a story –with pain, joy, tragedy in each one.  It con­firms again how alike we all are –how much we have hurt in the past —and how much we hope in Christ. It also con­firms just how des­per­ately we need each other.

P:  My group’s sto­ries were  full of so much pain and strug­gle.  I couldn’t believe how open and trans­par­ent the women were.  One woman, who had planned not to share much because of the raw emo­tions she was feel­ing about a sit­u­a­tion right now, decided she needed to talk about it –and did.

For WOM lead­ers every­where, this is no mistake–the trans­parency we wit­ness in the Woman on a Mis­sion classes. And it is not the result of what WE did last night or what other lead­ers do else­where.  It is God at work. He wants us to remem­ber that He cares and we are not alone. As we open our­selves up to oth­ers,  God’s love flows through them to us. We would do well to remem­ber to praise Him for let­ting His glory shine as we say out loud what is true of us.   Please pray for women every­where who are going through the mate­r­ial all over the country.

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Pittsburgh Sojourners

Against all odds, namely a Feb­ru­ary bliz­zard that blasted across the north­east,  I arrived with­out inci­dent in Pitts­burgh the day after the storm blew through.  Mary Lucas gra­ciously opened her 100-year old, charm-filled Sewick­ley home to me, mak­ing me feel truly ‘at home.’   At a cof­fee the next day, I was greeted by twenty or so women who had either been through my book or were cur­rently going through the mate­r­ial. Mary and Helen, God must surely be at work along­side you.

God never ceases to amaze me.  What women!  What sto­ries!  What hearts for min­istry!  But most endear­ing to me of all was the tan­gi­ble unity I felt with like-minded sis­ters in Christ.  Self­less and gen­uine sojourn­ers so many miles from my home.  It was as if we’d known each other for decades.  Their excite­ment for life and for mak­ing a dif­fer­ence was noth­ing short of thrilling.  My one regret was in my fail­ure to snap some pic­tures of their faces!  Too caught up was I in the con­ver­sa­tions and the shared vision for “glo­ri­fy­ing God by accom­plish­ing The Work He has given us to do.”

Friends in Pitts­burgh, Lit­tle Rock and else­where, mark my words:  When God begins to move in the hearts of women every­where to do what He cre­ated them to do with their time, tal­ents and energy, the impact on our soci­ety will be stag­ger­ing!  Because “the peo­ple who know their God will dis­play strength and take action” (Daniel 11:32).  They already are!

Pitts­burgh, send me your sto­ries and pho­tos!  I’m col­lect­ing them for “my next book” –that dreaded (er, lovely?) phrase! Mem­phis, Michi­gan, Pine Bluff, Con­way, you too!

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From Desperation to Life

My mis­sion is to empower peo­ple find and pur­sue their per­sonal mis­sion.  I believe and teach that abun­dant life –life that is rich with deep mean­ing and joy — is found in that pur­suit.  But not always. In fact, find­ing and pur­su­ing your God-ordained work may actu­ally lead to a dead end, spiritually-speaking.  Any­thing but the abun­dant life that Jesus touts.

Let me ‘splain. Because we’re capa­ble, gifted and resource­ful we can do the “God-work” just like we do every­thing else in life —on our own steam.  Doing some­thing well is enjoy­able: weed­ing the flower gar­den, we’re proud and sat­is­fied with the out­come. Sit­ting and cry­ing with a friend in need makes us feel use­ful, sig­nif­i­cant.  Serv­ing the home­less at the soup kitchen, we know our time has been bet­ter spent than watch­ing tv. Life is more sat­is­fy­ing, sweeter, richer. But mean­ing­ful work does not equal abun­dant life, not the life Jesus came to give, what Paul calls life indeed.

The abun­dant life of John 10:10 is found in Jesus.  Sat­is­fy­ing, sweet, rich, real rela­tion­ship.   And when we, in depen­dence on the Source, pur­sue the work He’s ordained for us, inti­macy with Jesus goes deep. Why? Because that pur­suit is eter­nally impor­tant and our human resources com­pletely inad­e­quate we dis­cover that we must have super­nat­ural help.  We must cling to the indwelling power of the Spirit, per­haps as never before, to get it done. We become des­per­ate.  For Jesus. And He comes through. Fruit is born. Jesus glo­ri­fies Him­self by using us!   There is no sweeter joy, no deeper sat­is­fac­tion, noth­ing more sig­nif­i­cant. Abun­dant. Life.

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Remember Jimmy by Lynda Elliott

On Sun­days for the last 3 years, I have noticed Jimmy sit­ting by him­self, a few rows in front of us on the aisle for the hand­i­capped at St. Andrews. He’s most notice­able because he sings praises to God with such gusto. Lean­ing on his metal walker, he raises his hands heav­en­ward. Seem­ingly unaware of any­one except Jesus, I could tell that he truly was wor­ship­ing the One who saved him. Some­times Jimmy would begin to joy­fully clap his hands, caus­ing a rip­ple of praise all around him as oth­ers would join in.

At com­mu­nion time, every­one could hear the sound of his walker as he made his way to the altar. Clunk, clunk, clunk came the sound as he slowly pro­ceeded for­ward among the crowds to be blessed with the bread and wine.

A few weeks ago, I real­ized I’d not seen Jimmy at church in a long time. I called the church office to get his phone num­ber or even his last name, but it seemed there was no record of Jimmy at all. I won­dered if he’d been sick or per­haps even died with­out any­one knowing.

Then in early Decem­ber, there he was again in his reg­u­lar spot qui­etly read­ing his Bible before the ser­vice, his walker rest­ing by the pew. Glad to see him, I gave him a hug and asked, “Jimmy, where have you been?” Smil­ing, he told me he’d been sick and in the VA hos­pi­tal. This dear man had fought for our coun­try but now he seemed nearly lost in the crowd and ignored at this time in his life. I invited him to come to the prayer room after com­mu­nion so that our team could pray for his health, and he nod­ded, promis­ing that he’d be there.

Then I asked for his phone num­ber. Low­er­ing his head, Jimmy said, “Mam, I’ve had a few finan­cial set­backs lately. I’ll give you my num­ber but you won’t be able to reach me until I pay my bill. Then you can call me anytime.”

Return­ing to my seat beside my hus­band, I asked him if he had any cash that we could give Jimmy to pay his phone bill. Wayne gladly gave me a suf­fi­cient bill.

When it was time for com­mu­nion, I slipped in beside Jimmy and placed the bill in his had. When he saw what it was, his mouth fell open, tears sprang to his eyes and he looked almost shocked. I made my way to the alter think­ing that Jimmy may indeed be often forgotten.

As the ser­vice came to a close, Jimmy entered the prayer room with the famil­iar clunk, clunk, clunk. As he approached my friend and me, we asked him how we could pray for him. A big smile broke across his face and he exclaimed, “I don’t need a thing! I just came back here to get some­one to thank the Lord with me for meet­ing my needs!” As tears rolled down his face, Jimmy said, “After all these years, I almost lost my faith a few weeks ago. I was sick. I felt like Jesus didn’t hear me any­more, like He’d for­got­ten me. This morn­ing Jesus showed me that He did hear my prayers. I know today that Jesus remem­bers Jimmy.”

We laid hands on him, joined him in thanks­giv­ing, and prayed for his health. As Jimmy left the prayer room, his tears rolled across a big smile as he made his way back to his seat.

Our Lord can do great things with even the small things we give in His name. No only may we meet a need, we may even have the chance to see Him do far more–restore the faith of some­one who feels forgotten.

I Peter 5: 6, 10: There­fore, hum­ble your­selves, lower your­selves in your esti­ma­tion under the shadow of Almighty God, that in due time, He may exalt you. Cast­ing all your anx­i­eties on Him, all your wor­ries and concerns–once and for all–upon Him who cares for you watch­fully. After you have suf­fered a lit­tle while, the God of all grace–Who imparts bless­ing and favor —will com­plete and make you what you ought to be, estab­lish and ground you securely, strengthen and set­tle you.

Friends, let us be alert to the Jim­mys in our path–and sen­si­tive to the Spirit who loves them with the great­est love of all.

My dear friend, Lynda Elliott is an author, life coach, speaker, and, most impor­tantly, NOTa for­get­ful hearer, but a faith­ful doer, of the Word.

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Strange Blessing

A week ago I came home from work early with the worst migraine of my life. Think­ing I shouldn’t drive, I called my hus­band to pick me up. Wise choice. As soon as I got home, I began throw­ing up and later passed out cold on the bath­room floor, frac­tur­ing sev­eral bones in my face. A trip to the ER by ambulance–a first for me–and test after test, I was sent home after deter­min­ing it was “just” a migraine and not some­thing worse.

Pain has a sober­ing effect on the soul. Unex­pected bless­ing is found in hav­ing the time to reflect, pray and read. I have a renewed deter­mi­na­tion to live the motto my friend Bob Buford intro­duced me to a while back: Go bold or go home.” To live unafraid for Jesus, uncon­cerned with people-pleasing and mate­ri­al­is­tic triv­ial pur­suits. To be about the work God pre­pared before­hand for me to do, with­out fear-driven hes­i­tancy. Ordi­nary inse­cu­ri­ties still plague me far too much. God wants me–us–free.

My head–it hurts some­thing awful but my heart is full and happy.

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Our Smiling God

No ques­tion about it —the Woman on a Mis­sion Cel­e­bra­tion Din­ner for 60 DCC res­i­dents of the Pine Bluff cen­ter topped every pre­vi­ous cel­e­bra­tion. I con­fess, every one of these gives me a major case of jit­ters. It’s far worse than when I am lec­tur­ing; at least then I have some con­trol over what hap­pens. Not so with a pro­gram depen­dent on the par­tic­i­pants’ shar­ing. They are the program.

Their assign­ment: share what God has taught you. The stated goal for the evening: glo­rify God. Make Him smile.

The ten­sion was height­ened all the more since for the first time in six years of lead­ing WOM classes we invited guests to join us– among them the lead­ers’ hus­bands; Dr. Hooker, pro­gram devel­oper for the state-wide “mod­i­fied ther­a­peu­tic com­mu­nity;” the events coor­di­na­tor and chap­lain at the prison and my overseer.

That morn­ing I con­fessed my high anx­i­ety to my hus­band. “It’s so totally out of my con­trol! I just have to trust God and rest in Him!” My tone belied the des­per­a­tion I felt. Dave’s response helped bring me back down to earth, “Yeah, I hate it when that hap­pens. You have to trust God. How awful for you.”

The shar­ing was amaz­ing. It was deep, vul­ner­a­ble, awash with tears and excited applause, with over-the-top appre­ci­a­tion for all God had done. It was the most touch­ing evening I have ever expe­ri­enced. And then one of the res­i­dents sang a song a cap­pella. It was a Susan Boyle moment times two. Not a dry eye in the house. Oh my. Tak­ing a men­tal pic­ture of her, I will not for­get that moment. All 80 of us were aware that we were stand­ing on holy ground.

Amid tears and snif­fles heard round the room, I envi­sioned God smil­ing on these pre­cious, lovely women, His daughters.

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Your thoughts? When have you expe­ri­enced a standing-on-holy-ground moment?

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Ministry Potholes

Work­ing with pris­on­ers can be addic­tive.” Wise words spo­ken by Dr. Eliz­a­beth Hooker, devel­oper of the “mod­i­fied ther­a­peu­tic com­mu­nity,” a pro­gram used in 5 pris­ons in Arkansas’ Depart­ment of Com­mu­nity Cor­rec­tions. She went on to say that when you work with pris­on­ers you often see great changes very quickly and you can eas­ily begin to take credit for their progress. “Tell your lead­ers not to take credit. The credit belongs to the women –the res­i­dents them­selves.”

Spo­ken as if it were only mod­er­ately impor­tant, Dr. Hooker was send­ing me a sig­nif­i­cant mes­sage, one that I’d need to pass on to my team. Our Woman on a Mis­sion class in Pine Bluff is almost over and the dan­ger she warns against, at its peak.

She said only that, noth­ing more, but Dr. Hooker got me think­ing about this tak­ing credit thing and the addic­tion that can come with such min­istry, maybe even with all fruit­ful min­istry. Pris­on­ers, called ‘res­i­dents’ in DCC units, are in a unique place of vul­ner­a­bil­ity and recep­tiv­ity by virtue of their incar­cer­a­tion. Los­ing their kids, rejected by their fam­i­lies, housed behind wire fences on a cam­pus that looks like a 40-acre cage, in bar­racks with wall-to-wall women they don’t know or par­tic­u­larly like, told what to do almost every minute of the day, most have hit rock bottom.

As we begin to wit­ness changes in them, through an insight they share, a slight change of atti­tude, a soft­en­ing of their hearts, we will be tempted to think we did it. Then when their appre­ci­a­tion for us is so intense –and it IS!–we’re faced with dou­ble temp­ta­tion. We’re not only tempted to take credit AWAY from them and away from God, we’re also tempted to get our needs met through min­istry instead of through rela­tion­ship with Christ. Dou­ble trou­ble. As we work with them, we feel significant–finally. We made a dif­fer­ence in the life of some­one else!

While God wants us to enjoy the fruits of our labor, we must think rightly about who we are–ambassadors for Christ, a con­duit of His love and wis­dom, empow­ered by His indwelling fire, depen­dent entirely on Him.

Addic­tion is addic­tion –not a good thing. As lead­ers we must think about and pray about our inner responses to the rush of being used by God. Am I falling into the trap of think­ing I’m respon­si­ble for Angela’s progress? If I am–even in sub­tle ways–she will sense it and some­thing will have been stolen from her. Her dig­nity needs to be restored. She needs to believe she can find her own answers and learn to stand on her own two feet. We mustn’t become a crutch that keeps another walk­ing with a limp.

When Angela –or any one for that matter–asks us what she should do, we need to respond as Suzanne Pat­ton did when asked that ques­tion: “I can’t tell you what to do. Nor should I, even if I knew. You need to get close to God and seek His will. You and He can fig­ure it out. I’ll pray for you.” We want them to learn to be whole, capa­ble and respon­si­ble. We want to point them to their inner strengths and teach them to rely on God — and not on us.

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A Beginning

Diana asked her small group of 6 women, inmates of Depart­ment of Com­mu­nity Cor­rec­tions in Pine Bluff, “Have you expe­ri­enced life change in your­self since start­ing this course?” Den­isha*, a sharp, young African-American replied in a voice that implied her self-surprise, “Yes, I have! A few weeks ago if I’d come to class with­out fin­ishin’ my les­son, I woulda just lied. I’da left my book in the unit and told you I’d for­got­ten it, but I fin­ished my les­son! I didn’t do that today. I brought my book and told y’all the truth–I just didn’t get it done.”

Her demeanor sug­gested a new-found dig­nity in truth-telling. And she knew what it represented—the begin­ning of sig­nif­i­cant change on the inside. A will­ing­ness to be hon­est about sim­ple, every day things.

Can we ever hope to be choose well in the big things if we’re unwill­ing to come clean in the small? Her response indi­cates a minus­cule shift in her approach to life and rela­tion­ships. Hon­esty. Integrity. Inten­tional tiny choices. The taste of suc­cess. The ball begins to roll in a new direc­tion, lead­ing her ever so slightly away from her past. In time it could lead to a world far away from what she once knew, from what landed her in prison.

Matthew 25:21: Well done, good and faith­ful ser­vant!
You have been faith­ful with a few things;
I will put you in charge of many things.
Come and share your master’s happiness!

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Tears Are Falling

Tears are falling.
Hearts are break­ing.
How we need to hear from God.

Though a Christ­mas song about the birth of the Christ child, the haunt­ing lyrics keep ring­ing in my head this mid-September. Every Thurs­day evening when 10 women on the Woman on a Mis­sion lead­er­ship team and I visit a prison in Pine Bluff, we hear story after story of sor­row, pain, and regret. They are women very much like you and me– they love their chil­dren, enjoy a good laugh, com­pas­sion­ately care for fel­low inmates, long for dig­nity, respect, love. They want to know they mat­ter.

Most of their pain seems to cen­ter on the deep heav­i­ness they feel over the fool­ish choices that landed them there–behind razor wire, away from chil­dren, friends and free­dom. Lately it seems prac­ti­cally every­one of the 60 in our class has lost a loved one to death or fear they soon will.

My mother is dying of heart fail­ure –and I’m here… I may never see her again, the god­liest woman I know.”

My brother –only 49–died sud­denly on Sun­day of a heart attack.”

Rebecca, an inmate in my unit, her hus­band, dad, and daugh­ter were killed in a car wreck on the way home from vis­it­ing her this week. She got an early release to go home and care for the baby, a one month old, and her 9 year old daughter.”

Tears are falling.
Hearts are break­ing.
How we need to hear from God.
You’ve been promised; we’ve been wait­ing.
Wel­come to our world.
Wel­come to our world.

The dif­fer­ence between them and me, and per­haps between them and you, is the polar oppo­site start they had in life. Abused, neglected, aban­doned, exposed to the under­belly of soci­ety at ten­der ages, they per­haps did the best they could, at least most of the time. Per­haps not. Hard truth is, they are where they are today –in what is pos­si­bly the best prison in the state–yet impris­oned all the same. Lonely, afflicted, needy, oppressed, out­cast, poor, bro­ken­hearted. Not across the big blue ocean in a remote vil­lage in Africa. Right here, 50 min­utes from Lit­tle Rock. Hun­gry for every morsel we toss them, grate­ful beyond belief that some­one cares.

Jesus said Fol­low me, not Come sit and study. Fol­low. Me.

What do you have to give oth­ers? Give it to Me first and I’ll bless it. Then you offer it to oth­ers. Be a part of a mir­a­cle. Come, walk on water –just like Me. (See Matthew 14 and Mark 6.)

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